Why I Don’t Tell People That I’m in an Ethically Non-Monogamous Relationship
Others’ opinion on my life isn’t anything I asked for
My partner and I have been sexually open since we officially became an item almost two years ago. After a few months of intense dating — and a lot of personal work on her part — my partner realized that she was never going to be a sexually monogamous person. She sat me down and shared her revelation candidly, refusing to mince words.
I knew she was something special and could feel myself falling fast, so I sat with myself for a few weeks and wondered, Could I be in a non-monogamous relationship? I asked myself a million questions as I tried to find a conclusive answer. What role did sex play in my relationship? What role did it play in my confidence and security? How did it relate to my understanding of love?
I talked to my sisters, one of whom is polygamous, about my thoughts. I’d never been in an open(ish) relationship before and I didn’t know if I could hack it or if I wanted to even try. I took walks around LA, piecing together how I felt on the whole subject. Finally, I realized that I wasn’t losing anything from my partner in the present. We weren’t an item yet, but I felt loved in a way I never had before. I felt cared for and desired and supported. And, in all honesty…
